Comments on: What can happen to my Ex Girlfriend if she didn’t tell me she got pregnant and kept the baby behind my back?

By: steve

steve — Wed, 26 Oct 2011 19:46:21 +0000

I am going through the same dilemma. My ex had a baby after we split up. I went over to her house right after he was born to find out if he was mine. She insisted that he wasn’t and was certain because of a blood test. It’s my fault for not asking for it to be sure. Instead, I took her word for it. That was seven years ago. Finding out that he is mine and she lied to my face was the worse thing that anyone has ever done to me. I can only say that the next worse thing would be taking a life, or suicide. Things didn’t work out between us, no biggie, she had another boyfriend who she married and claimed him as the father, they are now divorced. I want my son very badly. Problem is, he is a happy kid. He doesn’t know about me, and I don’t want to flip his world upside down. This has been the worse pain imaginable. Ladies, I don’t care if he is a crack head, he deserves to know. It takes two to make a child and two to raise him/her. In my opinion any other course of action is selfish. I’ve missed the most tender years of his life and now what? Should I ruin his happiness? The real conundrum is knowing what the right thing to do is. I feel for ya my bro. I am anti-abortion, I don’t lead a reckless life style and I would make a great dad. I don’t care about back child support. Money is irrelevant. I don’t think that the women get it. The ones that do this are cruel and selfish and unfortunately the real victim here is my son.

By: bigpun

bigpun — Mon, 08 Nov 2010 20:21:50 +0000

I’m going through some thing of the same thing..
I was going out with a girl that since the split has had a baby she did not get in touch with me because she is in a relationship now and is settled.. The last time I slept with her was before xmas last year and she started seeing the new fella in the January.. She insists that the baby is his and doesn’t want me to get involved because she has told him that the baby is his.. I don’t want to get back with her and I don’t want to split them up either..
How do I go about finding out if the baby is mine with out involving the new man in her life and the need for solicitors ?…

By: Its a GIRL! Due Feb 23rd

Its a GIRL! Due Feb 23rd — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 16:03:54 +0000

No….shes ALLOWED to keep the baby. You do have rights as a father to file for custody if you would like (joint custody) but you will also be responsible for child support. She will not get in trouble for not telling you tho….

By: J L

J L — Fri, 24 Apr 2009 16:01:34 +0000

There is no law stating that a women has to tell someone that she is pregnant, nor can it be held against her if she didnt tell you about it. However she does have the right to take you for a DNA test and then take you to court for child support rights and also for sole legal custody if it is proven the child is yours. You on the other hand have a right to also request a DNA test and also sue for visitation or joint custody, but if you do decide to sue dont wait to go to court, the longer you do, and they can prove you knew about the child the harder it will be for you to prove that you truly wanted to be involved and you might not get what you were hoping for in court. But if your thinking you can get her in trouble for keeping the baby without your knowledge your not going to get anywhere with that. IF you dont want anything to do with the child you can sign over your parental rights but just remember that doesnt make you not responsible for the child, you may still be required to pay child support. good luck!!

By: KeepSmiling

KeepSmiling — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:27:59 +0000

are you complaining about the fact she didnt have an abortion?? maybe that is why she didnt tell you. you cant do anything except ask for a dna test to prove paternity. You could sign away all rights as a father but you cant take it back if you change your mind. You might have to pay child support but it doesnt sound like she wants anything to do with you anyway

By: LadyMaui

LadyMaui — Tue, 21 Apr 2009 08:08:03 +0000

Simply talk to her and ask her you want in, if that is what you want or just simply talk to her

By: Kristin B

Kristin B — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 23:22:01 +0000

What do you mean? Do you want the child? If so, take her to court and fight for joint custody. Do you want nothing to do with her or the baby? Are you trying to relinquish any financial or legal responsibility? There’s nothing you can do about that – it’s still your child whether you knew about it or not.

By: Eileen Mae P

Eileen Mae P — Thu, 16 Apr 2009 20:41:17 +0000

Is the baby really yours? Maybe that’s the reason why she did not tell you. But if you can prove that the baby is yours, and if you are interested with the child, you can provide child support if your ex-gf will accept it.

By: Hayley K

Hayley K — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 06:10:44 +0000

nothing can happen to her. maybe there is a reason for not telling you? if you want to know how to go about being involved talk to her, if she declines take it further (soicitor) if your serious. if your unsure if its yours then do a test. if you just want to know for the sake of it and would rather not bother then dont.

By: Jess & bubs due october 11

Jess & bubs due october 11 — Sun, 12 Apr 2009 00:04:27 +0000

Such as? What would you like to do?