i want to get back with my ex but i don’t know how or what to do?
ambie24 asked:
I’m 24 years old, i was in a 5 year relationship with a man i love very much. 4 months ago, he ended our engagement. I have since tried everything i could think of to get us to work through the problems. He has since stop talking to me and is now asking for his engagement ring back. i’m so confused and at this point don’t know what to do.
i would like to thank all of you, who have contributed to my questions thus far.
To date, we have never broken up, which is one of the reasons i believe it is serious. Plus, 4 months has since passed. Other details to note, he is in medical school in a different state. I personally, don’t think med school is the barrier, but don’t know. Our familes were close, my father who’s a priest has since tried speaking to his dad a priest, however he declined to meet with us.
As i’ve said before, i don’t know what to do. I’m a counselor, and i try to think of what i would say to a client with a similar problem, i’ve taken those steps, however the pain and despair has not gone away.
Is there anything I can do?
the ring has no meaning, if he is no longer part of my life. I kept it all this time, in hopes that we will work through the problems. However, that hasn’t happen, and it doesn’t seem like it will. at the same time, i can’t just simply give up on the idea of us being together again. Even if i wanted to, i really don’t know how to. I’ve never had to give up on a dream or a person i love before. In the past, when i screwed up, or believed in something or someone, i’ve been sucessful in working through the barriers and/problems. Maybe this is why this is so hard. I do feel like a failure and i’m having a real hard time accepting defeat. i’ve tried looking at this situation as a learning experience, except i can’t, just chuck it up to an experience. I wouldn’t have invest this much time and love into something i didn’t intend to keep. any additional suggestions?
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I’m 24 years old, i was in a 5 year relationship with a man i love very much. 4 months ago, he ended our engagement. I have since tried everything i could think of to get us to work through the problems. He has since stop talking to me and is now asking for his engagement ring back. i’m so confused and at this point don’t know what to do.
i would like to thank all of you, who have contributed to my questions thus far.
To date, we have never broken up, which is one of the reasons i believe it is serious. Plus, 4 months has since passed. Other details to note, he is in medical school in a different state. I personally, don’t think med school is the barrier, but don’t know. Our familes were close, my father who’s a priest has since tried speaking to his dad a priest, however he declined to meet with us.
As i’ve said before, i don’t know what to do. I’m a counselor, and i try to think of what i would say to a client with a similar problem, i’ve taken those steps, however the pain and despair has not gone away.
Is there anything I can do?
the ring has no meaning, if he is no longer part of my life. I kept it all this time, in hopes that we will work through the problems. However, that hasn’t happen, and it doesn’t seem like it will. at the same time, i can’t just simply give up on the idea of us being together again. Even if i wanted to, i really don’t know how to. I’ve never had to give up on a dream or a person i love before. In the past, when i screwed up, or believed in something or someone, i’ve been sucessful in working through the barriers and/problems. Maybe this is why this is so hard. I do feel like a failure and i’m having a real hard time accepting defeat. i’ve tried looking at this situation as a learning experience, except i can’t, just chuck it up to an experience. I wouldn’t have invest this much time and love into something i didn’t intend to keep. any additional suggestions?
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That person is your ex for a reason. Move on with your life.
Gosh, bless you heart. You must be so unhappy right now. It is better to know why you split up and if you have had spit ups this long before. that way, it wouldn’t be so unusual to try and get back together.
You could try to enlist the support of a mutual friend to act as a go between the two of you. Not knowing more of the facts, I doesn’t sound as if a reconciliation is something he wants. Don’t keep the ring in hope that it’s a link between you because the ring represents a promise that is no longer valid. Under the circumstances I’d give the ring back – and maybe try to talk to him again then.
Give him the ring back. Either he’s got cold feet (& pushing him won’t help) or he has major issues you don’t want to be tangled in. It’s painful (been there) but, no matter how much it hurts, it will work out(with or without him.
The first time is always the hardest. The second time is always the hardest. We grow all our lives. Sometimes we grow apart, sometimes together, but with him, or someone else, you will find happiness.
Just look to yourself for happiness. Then it will be much easier to deal with the pain that accompanies life.
Good luck.
He decided he doesn’t want to be with you. You’ve spent 4 months pestering him about it. Things haven’t changed. There’s nothing you can do about it. Let him go.
Quit contacting him. Consider him dead. Move on with your life.
If he broke the engagement, you don’t have to give the ring back.
((hugs))
he broke off the engagement so u have a right to keep ur ring!! he gave it to you and you accepted….
but i think u should move on. things happen for a reason..if its love he will come back..
I have been in your shoes. I dated my ex for six years and then one day, out of the blue, he broke up with me. I was in complete shock and denial. I would have asked your question exactly at the time because I was trying everything I could to convince him to get back together with me. I felt embarrassed and ashamed that he didn’t want to be with me anymore after planning on getting married, and I made a million excuses for him breaking up with me. I thought he was depressed and irrational. I though maybe it was because we were living far apart at the time for the last year because I was finishing University in another city three hours away. I just couldn’t accept that maybe he just wasn’t in love with me anymore the way that we had been.
But the thing that I now realize is, why did I waste all that time and energy trying to be with someone who didn’t want to be with me? You deserve to be with a man who wants to be with you … not someone you have to chase around and convince to take you back. I must have looked like a fool trying so hard to get my ex back. And any chance we ever had of getting back together I’m sure were ruined by it because what man wants to be with a woman that is chasing him around – looking like she has no self-worth or self respect?
I suggest you try (as hard as it is – I know!) to just accept what he has said he wants and try to move on. Don’t call him or talk to him unless he initiates the conversation. If things are going to work out, he needs to realize what he’s missing and come crawling back to YOU! But if he decides he wants to move on without you, then you need to accept that and move on also. You will find happiness with someone else down the road. I met my fiance about a year after my ex broke up with me. And we dated for two years before getting engaged in December. I couldn’t be happier, and my ex has moved on as well and is in a relationship. As hard as it may be to accept, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. Things will work out in the end, either with him, or with someone else in the future. Hope this helps! I hope you can learn from my mistakes and stop chasing him. I had a nervous breakdown in the end because I was so desperate to get him back rather than just accept it. Good luck to you and I hope you find happiness.
I can understand what you are going through, my ex broke up with me almost 3 months ago and I recently saw her. Things were good but still didn’t feel quite right. So we were very friendly and flirty with each other. But we still needs some time apart. I can see us getting back together and there is no doubt in my mind that we will. She just needs some time to grow as a person. For you it may be the distance, have you guys actually had a chance to talk about why he wanted to be apart from you? If he is not talking to you then this can be a good thing, just give him the space he needs and he will eventually com around and just want to talk. Hang on to the ring it is yours now not his! He gave it to you. At any rate just leave him alone and give him time to miss you!